100 Black Dates

Hi!

First, thank you for making it this far.

Chances are, you met me and I gave you This card because I want to go on a date with you.

On this page, you will find everything you need to know to move forward with that.

At the bottom, you will find a form to ask me any unanswered questions you have, or to send me your information so we can set something up.

I’m truly Looking forward to connecting with you.

Giselle

Q&A

I’m confused! What is this?

100 Black Dates is a social experiment. It’s a love meditation&ritual. It’s an art project and performance piece. It’s a crash course in dating (because I don’t necessarily feel like I’m good at it and I’m not that experienced). 

This began because I wanted to open myself up to the energy of love in my life. I wanted to broadcast to the universe that I am ready to break the generational curse of strong, single women that seems to run in my family. I know so many women who think that finding love is impossible, that good black men are hard to find, that black women have a harder time dating… I myself have fallen into these dangerous thought patterns at multiple points in my life. This is a way for me to debunk this myth, if only for myself. I hope that my writing about these experiences inspires and encourages other black women to put themselves out there, in their own way, and find a bit of hope themselves. 

These dates are going to be turned into a series of zines (art books) containing film photographs, illustrations and writings. You all will be anonymous for the most part. I will write your first name and no one will be able to recognize you in the photo people see. It will be a zoomed in, cropped, close up of a feature of you that captures your vibe/energy, or maybe it will be a photo from behind, but it will not reveal you (unless I have your permission of course). This will not be about man bashing. I will not drag anyone. This will be an honest/vulnerable account of my experience with you as a person, but it will not be used for any kind of negativity.

Is this a real date?

I am treating it like one and I’d like you to do the same, so if you don’t think you would be interested in going on a date with me if this weren’t a project I was working on, then please do not reach out. I am choosing every person that receives this card with intention. I selected you because I was drawn to you. This is not random. I’m definitely doing this as a way to make a genuine connection. It’s my hope that even if we don’t make a love connection, I leave this experience with a beautiful friendship! 

I intend for both of us to pay for ourselves (if you desire otherwise, I am open to talking about it), but regardless, my goal is to plan each date so that they are free or low cost. 

Why 100?

Because I don’t know if it is possible to actually do this, so it allows me to have a difficult and fun goal to work towards. It also increases the odds. 100 dates can’t all be terrible right? *fingers crossed*

What if you really connect with someone?

I intend to be 100% transparent with every person I involve in this.

I intend to be emotionally and physically safe.

I intend to practice honest communication. 

Because of this, I have a few rules:

  • I will be celibate during the duration of this experiment. 

  • I will not be kissing anyone that I go on a date with while the project is happening. 

  • I will not be in a relationship while participating in this project.

  • If I meet someone and we genuinely connect by number 10, or 30, or whatever, and there is a desire to be exclusive, I will exclusively date them and stop this project. I will stop communication/coordination of other meetings. I will let everyone know.


If you have any more questions you would like answered, you can ask them here:

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If you got this far and are interested, fill out the form below and I will message you so we can figure out what kind of date we’re going on and when you’ll be available.

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